Anger and Civility

I have been ordered to go to Anger Management classes by the state. I am not going to go into the reasons at this time, suffice it to say I do not have an anger problem, especially as defined by the class I have been ordered to attend.
Anger is an emotion that many want to see eliminated. That is so wrong on so many levels. Anger is natural and to suppress it is to bottle it up and that leads to an explosion. That is where so many people get hurt. Express your anger in a positive way. That's what they say, at any rate. Anger is not a "positive" emotion. How can you express it in a positive way?
Easy.
Tell the person at whom you are angry that they have caused you to be angry. Do it when you are angry. Not later, when you cool off. That will not allow you to release that anger. This is all coming from what I have learned in my life. If it is not a person, but, say for the sake of arguement, a government branch or official. You will almost never get the chance to vent your anger at the object of inspiration in this situation. But you can still vent it. There is no way a judge will allow you to say, "You're fucking wrong!". You will end up in jail on contempt charges. You can, however, state the fact that said judge is acting on incomplete or incorrect information and jepardizing the very freedoms he or she was elected or appointed to protect in the first place by not allowing common sense into the courtroom. This opens a door for you to make an arguement, not just be arguementative. Work it out in your head before you speak. Acknowledge your emotions, but do not be ruled by them. Let the piddley shit go, face your anger and voice it, but do not lose control. If you do this, eventually you will not feel like you will lose control because you have faced all of the factors that have made you angry and let them know they have made you angry, thus not bottled anything up and carried it to the next incident. No anger carried forward, no threat to self control.
Be angry. It is natural. But be smart about it.
Voice your anger at the time you are angry. It will only help in the long run.

Technology

I love modren technology! To me, this is the best time to be alive. Less than 40 years ago, we put a man on the moon. Cars were huge! There was no easily portable music, and certainly no music of our own personal choosing that could be taken anywhere! Now look at us. We have mp3 players, to which we can download exactly what we want to hear, that are no bigger than credit cards.
Remember when video cassettes were new? They were just amazing! Recording television or watching an actual movie on your TV! Wow! You could watch it again and again.
Now we have DVD. Same thing, just no rewinding and you can start your movie from any "chapter" you like. And also there is DVR. Record TV, skip through the commercials at light speed, such a marvel of conveinience.
Phones were made portable. Huge and bulky, but now you could call someone from your car. They, too, have become refined and smaller. And you can use your phone as an mp3 player, camera, game statioon, and movie player as well.
This begs the question, just because you can do something, should you?
Do we really need a camera in our phone?
Has modern technology created the demand for conveinience, or visa versa?
Is the fact that there are now machines that can do the menial tasks making people lazier and more stupid?
Still, I love the instant gratification I have with my iPod and mobile phone. This is a great time to be alaive.

And another thing....

I hope that all are having a great Easter, though inevitably, somebody will get pissy beacuse of.... ok, just read the last posting. I just think that if people put as much energy into making life better for everyone as they do into trying to look like they are making life better for everyone, success may be alot closer than you think.

(ahem)

I just had brunch with my family today before work. It was nice to hang with my sister and her husband and my mother. I feel like there just isn't enough time to build and strengthen those familial bonds. Now I'm working two jobs and never have any time for my own family, much less my mother and siblings (of which are my sister, Christi at 45, John-Scott at 41, then me at 36). There are so many things I want to say and do but never have the "opportune moment".

Now that the whining is out of the way, I can see to fixing it.

If my wife continues to work at her job, and I can get my foor in the door for a full time gig at my second job, I won't have to work two.
OK
First, support my wife in her career choice and let her know my plans for my own.
Second, bust ass to prove myself at second job.
Third, do not let first job know about plans for second job. Don't want to shoot myself in the foot.

See how easy that was? What makes it impossible for so many people to look at the problem and get it fixed? My wife lives by the adage, "Fix it and move on". Stop dwelling on what wrongs you feel you have suffered and make a point to live today and tomorrow, learning from yesterday, but not letting yesterday's disappointments become a crutch you use to make excuses for yourself. Simple, right?

I am too tired of stupidity

I come before you, the great virtual masses, to explain myself. Enjoy it, because I am loath to do this, but I find it a moral imperative. I see it all the time. You probably do, too, but we all (myself included) just accept it as normal. Stupid people with their stupid ideas running amok in society. Not only that, but the majority in this country seem to think that these mental midgets should be elected to office so that they can implement their stupid ideas into law! What kind of world did we create for ourselves that requires us to follow the narrow-minded? Case in point: political correctness. What boob thought that this was a good idea? Now the majority (be it race, ideaology, theology, whatever) must censor its words - its very ideas - so as to not offend the minority. Here's a thought: Grow up! Let the majority have Christmas decorations and Christmas themes in school or at work. Tell the few other students/co-workers that they may also celebrate their holidays with just as much pride and fervor. And for those that are raising their children to believe that there is no God, let them use these times of religious celebration to teach their kids about taking the high road or, on the other end of the spectrum, about the sheep mentality of the religion in question. Why should 500 people shelve their beliefs to coddle to the 5 who don't agree?
Tangent:
Stop getting offended by petty crap. I get more offended that millions of dollars are wasted every year on unnecessary "cosmetic" programs while people still go hungry and sleep on the streets. Fix the problems and stop pointing to a useless victory!
I have got to stop or I will write on this subject for way too long! See my next post for more.

Another day exploring the web

OK, I now have a MySpace.com site. It seems cool, but everyone on there seems contradictory. There was one (I will not use names) that has, under her reasons for being there, "Friends, Serious Relationships, Dating", yet she states in her "About Me" section that she has no desire to meet anyone, she just wanted a place where she could blog. Hello? Does the mind not boggle at the vapid state in which she must live? There are hundreds of sites, like this one, where she could go and blow off some steam without the pitfalls accompanying a place like MySpace.com. I like feedback, but do not really want to make an impression that I am out there to date or "hook up" as I am very happily married. This blog is therapy for me. I want to know that I am not alone in my own mind. I want real people that can make decisions for themselves. And I want to keep kind of a weekly journal or diary where I don't have to worry about hurting your feelings. If I do, don't come back to this blog. I make no appologies for my opinions. Don't make any for yours. If I don't like yuors, it doesn't mean you are wrong, it just means I don't agree. That is not a bad thing. If everyone blindly followed a single idea, thinking it was right without question, where would we be? Question everyone's reasons for everything they do. It's like sit-ups for your intellect. And don't forget to even question yourself and your beliefs. Are they truly yours, or are they just what you were taught?

The New and The Old

Well, webbers, I have pulled myself out of the 20th and into the 21st. I think that this format will be very theraputic and I look forward to many uses of this to let all know what I am thinking.... the best part is that if you are one of those who don't like what I have to say, tough shit. Don't read it. Want to argue with me? Fine, but be prepared to back up your statements with intel, because I hate stupidity and the blind sheep of this society. I love new ngles on things, don't get me wrong, but I want real reasoning behind ideas, not some regurgitated ideology that you have always been told was right. Think for yourself, damn it. Is it really that hard?